Sorting out feelings in a Journal

As you may know, I am an advocate of Journal Writing.

There are many advantages to writing in a Journal, some much more obvious than others. Writing in a Journal is definitely a supportive tool on your path.

I can spend days writing about all the techniques and wonderful results that can come from Journal Writing… Today, I will focus on just one.

In my opinion, one of the best benefits of Journal Writing is - Sorting out feelings. I’m not just saying this, I know it from experience.

I’ve had a few very difficult periods in my life. Through a burn-out, marriage break-down and work related issues, I’ve had to sort out my feelings to be able to figure out what to do next. Sometimes, taking some time to myself, sitting under the energizing rays of the sun, perhaps a glass of wine on the coffee table, I could let my mind relax and tell me what’s been bothering my subconscious.

The act of “thinking about things” alone creates a whirlwind of emotions in your mind, making it very difficult to sort through. Even talking about issues is tough when you’re not entirely sure of what the problem is all about. Plus, your surfacing emotions may be too overpowering to let you think things through. Journal Writing is like forcing you to sit down, calm down and organize your thoughts to get a clearer picture of the situation.

Sorting out feelings also means recognizing them. In all my difficult situations, I have had to figure things out practically from scratch. I went from a position of complete ignorance as to what was happening to me, to slowly uncovering hidden emotions. There were feelings such as fear, anger or hurt that I couldn’t admit to myself. These all eventually came out in my Journal.

The way it always works for me is this: I start by writing anything… Hi Journal, How are you? Then I start telling my story, why I’m confused and so forth. Soon enough I’m on a roll.  My pen brings out thoughts I didn’t even imagine existed in me! Once the emotions are uncovered, it is easier to work with them.

I realize this is just the first step in dealing with issues; there is much more ahead. I don’t want to oversimplify the process but I believe recognizing and sorting out feelings is of prime importance yet so many people skip it. They end up never solving the problem because they haven’t discovered its source.

So if you are dealing with a difficult situation in your life, take out your Journal and start sorting out your feelings! That’s what I’m doing today!



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7 Responses to “Sorting out feelings in a Journal”

  1. Kenny says:

    I want them to know my feeling but I don’t want them to do anything about it … sound impossible

    • Carmen Marie says:

      Kenny, it is all in the way you communicate it. If you start your talk by, “I’m just telling you this to get it off my chest, please don’t feel like you need to fix anything for me…” it sets the tone for what you really want… Let me know how that goes. – Carmen

  2. Deborah says:

    When I journal I find I write about many things I feel strongly about, but when I think through my actions I find a barely almost ever act the way I think. I suppose I react on impulse in my daily life, and my thoughts may be good but it’s like the saying, “easier said than done.”

    Which is why I find journaling a little disappointing, because while I write a lot of good things and rational things about my emotions and how I should or usually handle them, I can’t find a way to apply them.

  3. Peter Wright says:

    Good post Carmen,

    Another, often overlooked, benefit of keeping a journal or diary as we of English schooling call it, is that it provides an easy reference to milestones in our lives.

    Good or bad those milestones are there to remind us how far we have come on our journey.

    Writing down today’s fears, concerns and anxieties may be great therapy for today. Looking back on how inconsequential they often seem in hindsight after another year or so on this journey through life can give us strength to face our new hurdles less fearfully.

    • Carmen Marie says:

      It makes me think of taking some time to re-read my posts!! LOL True. Journals are filled with pages of our history through the experiences… funny how things change and we can smile at it all when we look back at what we have overcome that looked like a mountain at first.

  4. Carmen says:

    Thanks Jeanne! I think sharing helps both the writer and the reader, the experience being both therapeutic and enriching in the end. That’s what TheNewHappyMe is all about. Thanks for sharing too Jeanne!
    :) Carmen

  5. jeannedowell says:

    I really appreciate your honesty and I do journal. It helps and also comforting to know someone else is going thru a rough time and willing to share. Thanks.

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