If this is true for you, you are not alone my friend. I am here with you.
I’ve been hurt and burnt several times over and now, I am a different person.
Indeed the experiences changed me over time. I don’t know if they changed me for the better or not, but I can tell you I learned from the lessons of life. I learned to protect myself, to protect my values and principles, to protect my priorities, my loved ones. My attitude and reactions are more guarded than before. I face situations in a very defensive way as well. Sometimes I block everything including opportunities because of this new shield I have put up. All this causes constant struggle. Hmmm.
Do you have the same problem? Have you put up a wall? I have.
The way I see it, this is a normal defensive reaction to negative past experiences. In search for a happier life, I got hurt and worse, so now, how am I supposed to continue on my search for that happier me again? Maybe my definition of HappyMe needs to be different than in the past? Maybe I should just trust myself because I now surround myself with people who will support me in my endeavors.
I believe there is a rational way of doing this. I have to ask my heart to trust me on this. I learned from the lessons and my brain can segregate between good and bad. And yes, of course I can make a mistake again, but that is just part of the game. Hopefully, the mistakes will be less consequential as I implement what I have learned from past experience.
So can I move beyond the wall and give myself a good chance at finding that happy life again?
I hope your answer will be YES, I will at least work at it. I am doing it one step at a time. You can too.