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Carmen Marie has been a member since October 10th 2010, and has created 469 posts from scratch.

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Single mom: stay at home, feel fabulous while making money!

A few months ago, I had an epiphany. I had not yet realized that I had taken on a whole new identity as a single mom. Someone just told me straight out. “Girl, you’re a stay at home single mom!” I had to think twice to believe it!

From hopeless single mom to fabulous single mom!

Yup that’s right. When I worked full-time, I has a hopeless single mom. My favorite expression was, “I’m sick and tired”. Well, I started getting very sick (and worried about who would take care of my kids) and when I wasn’t sick, I was always tired! I created my own reality!

As a single mom I was also always juggling life. I would be juggling the kids’ schedules, I would be juggling meetings, I would be juggling money to keep the banks happy… I was draining my energy with the constant juggling. It was time I dropped the balls!

That’s when I became a stay-at-home mom. I had always seen myself as a professional. I couldn’t identify myself in any other way. Even when I started working from home, I still couldn’t quite detach from my former reality. It took some time, and it took support. I had to change my mindset completely. I didn’t have to be working so hard, running around like a chicken without a head to be making money! Working from home as a stay at home mom was viable if I would accept to make it work for me!

Here is a video that explained some of it to me (I was there in the audience listening to Tracey’s wisdom)

Single stay-at-home mom feels fabulous and makes money!

I had to come around to understanding the concept of making money. There is a whole mindset and attitude attached to that as you may suspect already.

To me, making money required hard work, outside the home… Time to change that idea! I could now stay-at-home AND make money to sustain my family’s lifestyle.

To me, money came with a lot of negatives…

… Money is root of all evil.

… People with money are greedy and evil.

… Money doesn’t buy happiness.

Well the reality was this:

… I can help people and make money.

… I can give to charity when I make money and,

… dammit, lack of money was making me miserable! If I could only have more money to live comfortably!

It took some time to digest this money concept but I came around to it. When I started making money online, as a single mom, while working from home and spending more time with my kids (not juggling my time and feeling exhausted all the time) that’s when I was able to, for the first time in a long time, look in the mirror and say “Girl, you look fine!” YES. I felt FABULOUS!

You can change your life around like this too.

Join me and my team as we coach you and support you through the work at home environment. A few hours a day is all you need to start changing your reality just like I did!

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The Story of an Angel

On December 22nd 2012, the world lost a great man. It isn’t a sad story that I want to tell you today though. I wanted to share my thoughts in honor of my friend because I believe that, even though he would deny it wholeheartedly, he was a true angel.

Doug was of Jewish descent but he was not as strong on religion as he was on the spirit of love and giving. It is in this very same spirit that he touched the lives of many. I met him as a giver in the world of charitable organizations and as I continued to meet and speak with him in the last 3 years, I learned a bit more about who and what this man was and how humble he was about it. Much more is being revealed now that his friends are sharing.

At only 52, he got diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer. Only about a year to live the doctor had said. This man was a fighter though; he needed to negotiate an extension to his lifetime because he felt he had a mission to complete. He was not ready to let go so easy. This is when he came to see me. He needed answers about his own spirituality and life’s purpose. What had he done with his life, and now in the face of illness, what did his life mean?

As Brendon Burchard puts it:

Did I live, did I love, did I matter?

Yes, Doug, you did, all three.

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To help himself through the difficulties of illness and treatment, Doug started what he called a blog. It was basically a daily email sent to all his friends. I was fortunate to be one of those who woke up each morning eager to read his thoughts. He was going through his spiritual journey, trying to figure it all out.

He felt he had lived a life of materialism, he felt who could have done things differently, yet here was a man who had touched the lives of so many. His blog hasn’t stopped with his passing… his friends are now sharing their stories. Through the memories, we are finding out more about this man, things he was to humble to share. He was an angel and he didn’t even know it.

Here is one story I’d like to share anonymously.

“I’m really bad with dates but i’m pretty sure it was 1999 when Douglas first came into my life. In a huge way. I was a young single mother of 3 children fallen into a world of drug abuse and every bad thing that went along with it. I was trying to get my life together and started therapy at a place called Project Pride. At this time I was caught in a vicious circle, wanted out but owed money to people that kept me stuck doing what I was doing. I guess Tony, my therapist, mentioned me to Douglas (who did a lot to support project pride) and Doug (through Tony) asked me to write him a letter about myself, my life, and my kids. I didn’t really know why but I figured why not… Long story short, he read the letter asked how much money I owed these people, he gave me the money to pay them so I could get away from them. Keep in mind at this point I still have never met Douglas. He didn’t know me I could have taken the money and done anything with it. Thankfully I didn’t. I paid my debt and decided to take my kids and move back to New Brunswick.

So here I am in New Brunswick with my kids, realizing that a geographical change is not what I needed after all and again I’m stuck. I call Tony who calls Douglas who in turn buys me, my kids and my dog a train ticket to come back to Montreal.  Keep in mind, I still have never even seen this man.

I get to the train station and guess who is there to pick me up… yup Mr Douglas. So we all pile into the car and Doug drives us to my mother’s. The kids jump out and I turn to say thanks for everything and this wonderful man hands me 300$, tell me he’s giving me 2 weeks to get my kids enrolled in school, then I start my new job at his company. Let me tell you, I was 25- 26 years old, never had a real job in my life and terrified. I couldn’t say No Thank You after everything he had done for me.

This simple opportunity changed my entire life.So I found out at 26 years old how great it felt to be a contributing member of society. That was all it took for me. I never looked back. It gave me so much pride to make Douglas proud of having made the right decision by giving me a chance. I worked for him for 12 years. Doug would let my kids come the work after school and when I would get up from my desk to go check on them and I would find my daughter sitting on Doug’s lap in his office doing her homework and my 6-7 year old son helping in the warehouse for a 5$ allowance.

I could go on and on about all the stuff Doug has done for me and my family over the years, but he absolutely refused to take credit for it. I would tell Doug he literally saved my life. I’d probably be dead in a ditch a long time ago if he hadn’t come along when he did. He was my miracle. He believed in me when I didn’t know how to believe in myself. He always said it was not him that it was all me. He said I was one of the strongest people he knew and somehow I think him saying it made it so…

I don’t know what else to say.
I loved him…and I will miss him”

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There are more stories like this one. We often think of angels as white entities with wings, but they do exist on earth as well and they are among us. Doug was definitely one, touching the lives of many through the miracles he offered. He leaves us with these memories to share on this Holiday season, a time of year of love and giving.

About 18 months ago, he came to me seeking guidance in his spirituality. He was looking for purpose, thinking that he had missed out all his life. He had been through some difficult times and kept some regrets in his heart. Healing and releasing is unfortunately very difficult when you are dealing with the physical realities of illness at the same time.

He may not have believed it himself, however I know that, without a doubt, to his loved-ones and beyond, even to people who didn’t know him, he was an angel accomplishing the very mission he was sent here for. He lived, he loved, he mattered. He did not have children, but he left an important legacy, one of love and giving. A legacy we shall all continue to live by and keep alive in Doug’s honor.

With a big energy hug, the way Doug loved ‘em,
I send you love on this very special season of giving.

 

 

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What goal do you want to accomplish next year?

 

Okay, I know, it may be a little too early to start thinking about New Year’s Resolutions. Yet, we are less than 100 days away…

So what goal do you want to accomplish next year?

I’ll ask the question again because I want to start thinking about real goals, concrete, step-by-step goals you will see progress in as you move forward towards achievement. This may sound obvious to you, but I want to take the time to write about this so that I may iron out some of the kinks that usually mean failure.

I have been writing articles and an eBook about Vision Boards again and that’s when it hit me. If you are not clear about the basics of setting intentions, you won’t have a successful experience with your goals. You see, most people, when asked about their goals for the future, will mention “money”. They want to make more money, they want to be accepted at a higher paying job, or they want their business to do well… Sometimes they even add the detail of the amount, sometimes they add the date by which they want the wish-come-true. Of course, they may have a plan to make this work, but they are missing a very important element, one that I bring up in my Vision Board workshops.

If you want more money, what will it serve you for?

If you didn’t have a want or a need, you would probably not be wishing for or setting a goal for more money. Money is just a currency. It allows you to acquire things, to purchase, to do, to give, etc. So money in itself does not bring you any satisfaction, however the end results given the amounts of money you receive do.

In the Vision Board exercise, we look at images that represent Happiness to us. These are the end results.

So if you thought making more money was a goal to accomplish next year, go back to the drawing board. What is your real goal. Is it…

  • buying a new car
  • buying a new house
  • being able to propose to your girlfriend
  • paying for a well deserved family or romantic vacation
  • expanding your business
  • being debt-free and comfortable

Visualize these goals with all your senses. Think of the contentment you will feel at being able to reach these amazing outcomes. These images, the same as what you would put on your Vision Board, represent all the wonderful things more money will allow you to have. The experiences they represent will mean much more to you than any stack of money you may be keeping under your mattress!

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P.S. I don’t negate the fact that making more money is an objective worth the hard work. Think of how your life can improve with just a little more money. Has this been a dream and a struggle all at the same time for you? Bloggers like me are making the move to build a lucrative business through creative expression and love for the internet communications.  Let me show you how we are shifting the industry and making the money we need to continue blogging! Click on this hyperlinked paragraph right now!

 

 

 

 

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The Law of Exposure

Here’s an amazing eye opener video by Gary Ryan Blair I wanted to share with you. It’s about the Law of exposure.

I’ve spoken to you about this before but it is something so basic yet so crucial that I want to remind you of it. It just so happens that Gary’s video is great in giving that dramatic effect. I’m not one for drama but this issue needs your attention! Not understanding this basic concept will be dramatic in your life!

 

 

Gary is talking about his program, the 100 Day Challenge, where he invites you to make the shift in your life, to change what you are exposed to and succeed in finishing the year fully transformed into awesomeness!


Yes it does take discipline to change your exposure, from TV, games, Hollywood drama and all the mindless information that you are bombarded with daily, to the type of input that will have you moving towards your goals. You can do it!! If you want to take the 100 Day Challenge, click the image to get more details.

We’ll reconnect often I hope to hear about all your amazing accomplishments!

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Where were my priorities?

Some of you may already know that I am writing a book. I set myself accountable by entering a publishing contest I am very excited about. This project has given me the nudge I needed to finally get cracking with my book writing idea.

My attendance at last week’s Experts Academy event also helped me create a framework for my book, a structure that would make it more powerful in relaying TheNewHappyMe message to readers around the world. Everything has been falling into place nicely even though I felt the weight of some challenges along the way.

Today, I blocked a few hours of my day to write. I feel the words flowing smoothly as though they have been prepping to be spoken for so long. There are some awkward moments too though as I remember events from the past… I recall words that hurt me… Writing is an intimate exercise, one I am learning and growing with. It is all part of the path and I am grateful for this.

While writing about shifting old patterns, I decided to check back into post archives… How did I feel back then? My articles had a lot to tell. I found this one: Where are your Priorities? My heart sank for a moment as I read it, almost two years after having written it.  I was in the midst of important decisions back then and I was going through a rough patch. TheNewHappyMe posts were helping me keep my sanity.

I came out victorious though! I chose to place my priorities where I needed to place them: right here with me! By taking care of myself I started becoming more present for my children and more engaged in activities that made us all happy. Self-love and care allowed me to make better choices altogether. The initial question may not have come with the best of intentions, but I did need to hear it again to shift my behavior once and for all.

If you are faced with the same question, “Where are your priorities?”, take a step back and think of how you can offer yourself more love in order to, in turn, be more present for your loved ones. The shift will make all the difference in your life.

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